Dr. Brian Paris – thought leader, influencer, public speaker, master coach, mentor, entrepreneur and business executive dedicated to helping thousands of people with diverse medical histories achieve a pain-free, active, and healthier life.
His dynamic approach to care is holistic and interconnected, much like the body itself. Dr. Paris is known for his ability to assess the whole person—considering body mechanics, mindset, nutrition, sleep, life habits, and movement. People working with him often experience relief from pain as well as improved well-being, more life fulfillment and deeper connection to themselves.
In this episode of TechTalk Podcast, Brad Cost, Dr. Jay Greenstein, DC, and Dr. Brian Paris sit down to discuss:
Leading with clarity and compassion and moving on intellect and intuition.
How to seek out and develop a radical, authentic relationship curiosity.
The Four Pillars: Body, Mind, Emotions, and Tribe.
SHOW NOTES:
6:35 – The human experience. “I had my own practice down the street from one of your early practices for nearly 20 years, but I ended that chapter and had a short stint in corporate America with medical device and software sales. Since then, I have taken lessons from all of those and pivoted into enhancing my own human experience and those around me to create a high performing team. I'm learning that it's not just about putting high performers together. It's about creating a high-performance team. Employee turnover is high, productivity is low, and burnout is high. What do we have to do in the human experience to be able to improve our teams, our product, and our services?”
7:43 – Dangerous symptoms of burnout. “I reached points of significant burnout, and the signs or symptoms were dangerous addictive behaviors for myself, my family and those around me. I had to eventually tell myself that this is not my destiny. I could see myself going down a bad path and I was in a chronic state of dorsal vagal, meaning I was shutting down. Animals most rudimentary protective system of their bodies, their brains and their organs is to shut down, freeze and become as close to death as possible so a saber-toothed tiger won't think they’re alive. What does it look like in modern day? Brain fog. Lack of clarity in the mind. Inability to make decisions. Fatigue. You put any supplement or medication in front of us right now and those four symptoms are typically what we're looking to help. I had to really face myself and it took a lot of deep work because I had only seen success and then boom, I hit a wall. I got divorced. My business wasn't profiting. I wasn't looking at profit first because it's so easy to bring in revenue but it's really nice to spend money on everything. Some of the biggest lessons I learned was where to trim the fat and get more productivity out of my team itself.”
11:44 – Clarity and compassion. Intellect and intuition. “It's a combination of having the education or logic while leading with love. Clarity and compassion. How do you do both of those? How do you stay compassionate towards your coworker and also be clear in your mind to make decisions? It’s also intellect and intuition. People come to me saying they have this feeling, but what's some logic or intellect behind that? How do we integrate both of those things? As we age, we combine the left and right sides of our brain and get information from our bodies, so we can be more successful and productive.”
12:43 – Radical curiosity. “It's important to look at life with curiosity. With all of us being leaders, managers and entrepreneurs, we certainly have led with logic and intellect. As we age, adding some intuition or love is really what allows you to build this tribe. Now your company tribe interacts with your company tribe and my company tribe and things expand greatly. My practice is focused on leading with radical curiosity and my habit is to ask questions after my initial reaction.”
20:13 – The Hero’s Journey. “Joseph Campbell's Hero's Journey. Every blockbuster movie is based off of this framework - it's human evolution. In the Hero's Journey, the hero is the main person, and they are not happy with their current life situation, so they leave home, find guides, go through missions and battles, then return back home with all they’ve learned from their journey. That's very paraphrased. Even I have returned back to my hometown and family with a lot more self-awareness and self-love, which leads to self-confidence in communication, productivity, curiosity and care. These things are going to leave a legacy. Who I am today is who I want to be as a model for what I leave behind for my children. Money, cars, homes are things that will melt to the Earth. It's all going back anyway. I want to touch people's hearts. I want to move and inspire people on a consistent basis.”
23:13 – Body, Mind, Emotions, and Tribe. “Putting frameworks together for myself is like putting structure around something that allows me to flow in life. How do I get into more flow states in life? First of all, I studied flow states. When we were growing up, we talked about adrenaline junkies, but neuroscience is pointing to us being flow state junkies. We want to be in that timeless sense where time disappears and we're at complete focus with low cognitive load. It really intrigued me. I spent the first portions of my life studying holistic lifestyle, so I put these two things together and called it holistic performance systems or holistic performance culture. How do we create a culture that holistically performs? I based it on four pillars: body, mind, emotion, and tribe.
Body - I'm looking at embodied cognition, or how I use my body's sensory system. How better posture and more joint movement and better nutrition can help me think better and make better decisions?
Mind - an organized mind is a powerful mind. There are three proven ways to help organize and clear the mind. One is focused attention. Two is open awareness. Three is kind intention. I've really dove into the neuroscience and mind science behind that. We've been taught that the mind is in the skull encased brain, but that's not where it is. That's just an organ, right? The mind is an embodied and relational process. It's a verb, not a noun. This is newer concept. The job of the mind is to process energy and information.
Emotions - there's a space in between stimulus and response. The only thing we can control in our lives is how we respond to things. We're going to get a physiological reaction, but how are we going to respond to that? How do I increase that gap or window of tolerance? We should be working on emotional regulation of oneself and then learn how to co-regulate.
Tribe - our social engagement. How do we get more effective at social engagement to show people that we're trustworthy and competent? Those are the two quickest things people are going to recognize, whether we're online or in person. Now, that doesn't mean they have to solve our flight to Mars, but we want to feel safe and have good communication with them. These are all the elements that I teach in a four-part series.”
32:41 - Process of understanding the four pillars. “We go through a discovery session first. My job is not to look at spreadsheets and those types of things. I'm looking at the software of the people so to speak - everybody's collective body mind emotion tribe. We've got some assessments forms that gives us scores and we create objective data on increasing productivity, decreasing absenteeism, increasing longevity of employees. It's typically a four-month process where we work through body, mind, emotion and tribe.”
34:45 – When curiosities converge, passions emerge. “Someone once told me I asked them a question and then just walked away. I was so busy inside my own head that I would ask a question just to be “curious,” but it wasn’t authentic. I was supposed to ask people questions and be more interested versus interesting. I had to take a step back and get into empathic listening. I also had to learn how to feel what was going on inside of me and label it. When I'm feeling nervous, I wanted to be able to put a name on that and then curiosity occurred. A quote I came up with: where curiosities converge, passions emerge. The masculine energy without purpose is just floating. I like to do a curiosity inventory. What am I curious about? Holistic lifestyle. Neuroscience. Flow states. All of those things converging. Fitness. Once you have the autonomy to explore these things, then you can achieve mastery.”
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